Therapy for an abusive spouse to stop being abusive...?

Wasn't sure where to post this. Long story short I am a wife of a verbally/psychologically/emotionally abusive husband. Its been an 11 year long marriage. I have developed my eating disorder issues in the second half of our marriage and am in tons of therapy to work on it. I'm finally strong enough to put my foot down and separate from him. I do want our marriage to work one day but as is, there is no way right now. In the last few days he has made tons of promises he has never made before and I can't help but question if it is sincere or long term. I'm very stressed out but am determined to continue w moving apart from him until I have long term solid proof that he has changed. One of his promises is that he is willing to do therapy. He said he already has an apt for his first group therapy session this week but is also willing to see a therapist together. From all I've read, it isn't wise for couples to do any counseling together until the abuser addresses his abuse problems. It seems that couples counseling assumes both need to change but in an abusive relationship, the abuse must stop first before anything can be addressed. Anyway my question is if any of you out there have experiences of abusive people you know who have successfully received medical help and were able to change? Is that even possible? Small detail also is that I have kaiser medical coverage and so am looking to see if they have any services to help. I've already contacted my providers and am waiting for their responses.

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